10 things I’m doing right as a parent

baby smiling on blue background

Yesterday I was talking about my recent blog posts with my sister, and how writing is an emotional outlet for me. However she raised an interesting point, and threw down a challenge:

Why don’t you write about the things you’re doing right?

Totally valid point. I’m only focused on the negatives and the things that I’m unsure of. When I write and reflect on how things are going, I don’t pat myself on the back for a job well done, or remind myself of the things I’m doing right. This is just as important (if not more so) as analysing the difficult times. read more

4 challenges in getting out and about with a baby

I can’t sit still.

I get cabin fever so quickly and easily; I’ve been that way ever since I can remember. Sure, I have days/nights where all I want to do is be at home – I’m just saying I can’t do many of those in a row.

I struggled with cabin fever when Luca was first born. There was a lot of other things that were overwhelming at the time as well, but more than anything I wanted to get out of the house. The C section meant that I couldn’t drive, couldn’t push a pram, or do anything really for quite a few weeks. read more

November one second a day

Someone blinked and the month was over. Whoever that was, please try to blink a bit slower for the rest of the year? I’ve got stuff I need to do!

Some pretty incredible highlights for the month – some that are historical moments that will go down in Australian history

  • Australia voted YES! on gay marriage!!!!!!!! (I can’t tell you how happy I am about this)
  • Reached the one year wedding anniversary with my husband
  • Friends from Victoria visited us
  • Started getting out more with Luca, trying to use the pram or carrier
  • Got the all clear to start driving from the doctor (after my c section)
  • Started working out again
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    Weekly recap

    I’ve not had much down time this week away from Luca that I could spend in front of the computer, hence the lack of posts. Right now we are in the car (Mario is driving), so I can write my weekly recap.

    • Saw the paediatrician on Monday for his 6 week appointment – all ticks of approval. It looks like he’s gaining between 200-300g a week, well above the required 150g. Not long and he’s going to have some substantial fat rolls! In a good way of course.
    • I’m focused on trying to get him some quality naps during the day. I’ve been working on recognising his sleep cues, which I think I’m getting better at. Now just to get better at actually settling him to sleep!
    • Thanks to some recommendations from friends I’m going to start trying white noise apps. The most success we’ve had getting him to sleep was when I held him while vacuuming, or when Mario was playing some music. Based on that it looks like noise is his friend, instead of a quiet room. The paediatrician said this week should be his worst week for sleep though, so hopefully it’s all up from here!
    • The little guy had his needles on Tuesday for his 6 weeks vaccination. He cried, but settled and fed straight away. The rest of the day he was quite drowsy, but back to normal by that evening. Champion!
    • He started smiling this week!! And I managed to catch it on camera after a not-so-great night

    Last night was hard. Luca slept the usual amount of time but getting him down into his bassinet was difficult. He would wake and cry immediately. At one point I was so frustrated I woke hubby and asked him to do it. I was tired, hormonal and close to tears. From that point on whenever Luca woke to feed, I would feed him and hubby would put him down. At 4.30 I tried to put him down myself again, failed and asked the hubby. I fell asleep, and had no idea that hubby took Luca out into the living room to sleep. Hubby stayed awake holding him so that I could get some uninterrupted sleep, sacrificing his own at the same time. I felt horrible when I woke up, but grateful at the same time. He has to work today so it’s going to be a long day for him. But today….the smiles like this make the lack of sleep seem irrelevant. Luca’s finally cracking the smiles regularly, and every time it melts the heart of his father and I. Lack of sleep what now? I’ve forgotten already. #babiesofinstagram #lucamichaelangelo #6weeksold #babies #parenting #mumlife read more

    Guilt and failing at keeping everyone happy

    When Mario and I planned our wedding I learned it’s not possible to keep everyone happy. In the 6 weeks since L has been born I’m learning the same lesson again.

    Tonight I find myself sitting with a serious case of guilts and unease.

    To my friends, my family and my husband:

    I’m sorry.

    I’m trying to respect your wishes, and your desires. I’m going to do the same for others. And in the course of that I’m going to piss some of you off.

    Please know that none of it is intentional. read more